I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to counseling weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason isn’t working right now. Perhaps this problem feels overwhelming and is making it difficult to access your past strengths. In our work together, I’ll help you identify what those strengths are and how to implement them again in what is happening now.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, counseling will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.
Online counseling is a bit different in that there aren’t “sessions.” You are free to chat in your very own private and secure room whenever you wish, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. No more waiting weeks for appointments or taking hours out of your day to make an appointment. As your counselor, I will check in just about every day and the conversation will flow naturally. Just as you “text” your friends and family, now you can “text” with your counselor!
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them. The length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
Most clients I work with continue with counseling for at least three months. I have many clients that find it useful for years, and others who address one main issue in a month and move on.
One week of online counseling is equivalent to a 50 minute in person therapy session. Even one month of counseling is more beneficial than never seeking support at all. I encourage clients to give online counseling a try for a month, and see if it’s a good fit for their lives.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.